Tommy Lee’s vicious fight with his 21-year-old son Brandon Thomas Lee just got worse.
A father-son brawl left the Mötley Crüe rocker with a bloody lip last week, and now Tommy will press charges against his son for not saying “I’m sorry.” (Which, it turns out, is actually a common cause of estrangement between parents and kids.)
Tommy, 55, filed a police report on March 6 after he claimed his son busted in, punched him, and knocked him unconscious, TMZ reported. When Brandon (whose mom is Pamela Anderson) refused to apologize, the rocker hit the roof. He is now pursuing criminal charges and a restraining order against his son.
The brawl actually started over former pinup Pam, 50, after she spoke about past spousal abuse towards her in a recent interview with Piers Morgan. In 1998, he was found guilty of assaulting her during a fight, and at the time he pleaded no contest to corporal injury to a spouse. He served six months in prison and completed 200 hours of community service, but was released after four months.
Brandon, defending his mom, says that during the altercation, Tommy lunged at him and he fought back in self-defense. Tommy’s fianceé, 31-year-old Brittany Furlan, told 911 that Brandon started it and knocked his father out.
“My stepson and my fiancé got into a fight … [Tommy] didn’t hit his son, his son pushed him,” Furlan said in audio obtained by TMZ. “Then [Tommy] asked him to leave and was like, ‘Here’s the door’ and put his arm on his son’s shoulder. His son punched him in the face and knocked him out cold. He’s bleeding,” she continued. “[Brandon] punched him really hard in the face and he went flying backwards. He’s totally out like a light…My stepson has guns in his room and that’s why I’m freaked out; I just locked the door.”
Although Tommy and Brandon took it physical, they are certainly not the first Hollywood parent-kid duo to battle publicly.
Remember when Eminem was all about publicly bashing his mom, Deborah Mathers? Reportedly, the two are in a better place now, but for a while there it was ugly. In 2011, she even sued her son for defamation of character.
The insane trifecta of Lindsay, Dina, and Michael Lohan has always been tabloid fodder. Allegedly, Michael was abusive to Dina while Lindsay was growing up, and the two didn’t speak for years. Then she accused her mom of using her for fame, and cut both parents out of her life. Now the three are speaking after some intense therapy … but Lindsay is also not living in the country so that helps.
The two have since made up because he was desperate to see his grandkids, but for years Angelina Jolie and her famous father Jon Voight were on the outs. Why? All because he gave an interview years ago questioning if she was a fit mother.
Tori Spelling and her mom Candy have been feuding since her father Aaron Spelling passed away, leaving the majority of his fortune to his wife and to charity. Tori got next to nothing, and doesn’t get any financial help from her mom, either.
Jennifer Aniston’s mom Nancy Aniston has passed away, but the two became estranged when Nancy wrote a book about their relationship titled From Mother and Daughter to Friends: A Memoir. As a result, she was not invited to Jen’s wedding to Brad Pitt.
Charlize Theron lived through a nightmare when she was a teenager, and her mom was sent to jail, for shooting Charlize’s dad, an alcoholic who was being abusive to her mother.
Ariel Winter took her mother to court at just 14 and accused her of physical and emotional abuse. She became emancipated from her mother and moved in with her older sister as a result.
Shia LaBeouf and his father, Jeffrey, a Vietnam vet, have had rough times. Shia says his dad was a drug addict who he would watch go through withdrawal and it forced the two into difficult fights when he was a child.
According to Monica Ross, LPC, it is entirely acceptable to cut ties with a parent if they cross major boundaries. “If either party feels as though they cannot be respectful, loving, and supportive towards the other, then yes, it’s time to move on and find those with whom one can. This is true for family members, friends, coworkers, and really anyone one would surround oneself with.”
Common reason kids and parents become estranged are a kid’s choice of spouse, lack of boundaries on the parent’s part, or abuse, trauma, substance abuse, or simple personality clashes.
The Huffington Post reports that some estrangements are simply due to immaturity on the kid’s part, and that hopefully it can be fixed.
“The estrangement of adult children from parents, in cases where overt parental abuse had not in fact occurred, can in some instances be read as a mark of immaturity on the part of the adult children, who may not yet have experienced the emotional challenges of parenting; for this group, at least, there is the hope that if they find themselves in the same role a few years later, they will gain compassion, if not forgiveness, for their own parents. Some older parents can at least can hold out for this hope. No one, of course, had “perfect parents.” Forgiveness involves understanding and identification with the difficulties one’s parents may have had, and as such, forgiveness is an expression of love and maturity,” says Robert C. Abrams, M. D., Professor of Psychiatry, Weill Cornell Medical College.
Winifred M. Reilly, MA, Marriage and Family Therapist, says, “If your grown child has pulled away, ask yourself this: Is there an unresolved issue that needs to be addressed? Is there something I might do to make that resolution possible? Is there something I need to apologize for or forgive? Difficult as it is, I’ve seen many parents remain openhearted to their estranged children, reaching out, inviting contact, expressing their love, with no expectation or insistence that it be reciprocated. Sometimes all we can do is leave the porch light on with a key under the mat.”
The Chicago Tribune shines a light on why parents and kids could fall out much easier in modern times.
“Parenting has changed more in the last 40 years than it did in the few centuries before that,” they report.
“As a result, today’s adult children don’t view their relationships with their parents the way their folks did with their parents… The principles of obligation, duty and respect that baby boomers and generations before them had for their elders aren’t necessarily there anymore…Many of today’s parents strive to become their grown child’s friend…When that works, it really works. But when it doesn’t work, it really doesn’t.”