Meghan Markle may be living the life of a princess, but it comes with a price.
Just after she appeared publicly for a few official royal engagements with Prince Harry her social media accounts went poof! Yup, the Royal family now controls her image, but it’s probably worth it. OK it’s totally worth it. Who needs to mindlessly scroll Instagram when you can try on tiaras all night instead?
Meghan once enjoyed posting cute pics of her rescue doggies, Guy and Bogart, snaps from work on Suits, and gorgeous pictures form her travels around the world, but no more.
Her Twitter account has disappeared too. The entire royal family isn’t on social media. Kensington Palace, Clarence House and The Royal Family all have Facebook, Twitter and Instagram accounts, but family individuals do not.
According to Business Insider, couples who differ in their social media habits and accessibility are really common. Many couples are even in therapy for fighting over their social media images.
And Vanessa Marin, a psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy, wrote in The New York Times that “[o]ften in relationships, one person is more private than the other, a difference that can lead to fights.”
So is the easy way out to give up part of yourself and delete your social media altogether?
It’s hard to say. For Meghan Markle, it seems there is good reason — and royal rules to follow.
In a survey from the Pew Research Center, 45 percent of millennials in relationships admitted the Internet has had an impact on their relationship, compared to 10 percent of adults 65 and older. Many of the fights tend to be about not only what the person is posting, but how much time they are spending on their phone, tablet, or computer.
If a partner asks you to delete your social media accounts of them it cam be a sign of a controlling, jealous person with trust issues. Unless you are seriously out of control and not respecting their boundaries, for example, like posting pictures of them when they don’t want you to.
The topic even sparked its own Reddit page, with a writer asking, “Would you give up social media for a better relationship?”
“One of my friends told me she would give up all social media to have a better relationship … I asked myself, is it really necessary to give it all up for a better relationship? Or does it mean that’s something terribly wrong in your relationship when you come to the point to give up your social media. What do you think about this?” the person asked.
One calls the request to delete your online presence a “red flag,” while another says getting offline helped his marriage.
“Both my wife and I have cut back dramatically on social media in a way to make our relationship better. We found that our evenings were spend on opposite ends of the couch, each on our phones ignoring each other. We decided to put the phones down and talk, laugh, go for walks, etc.”
Another says it’s just how—and how often— you use it.
“Like anything, if you can’t use it responsibly, you shouldn’t. It is not one size fits all.”
Entrepreneur and VP of Product at Tinder, Ankur Jain tells Personal Space that Meghan maintaining a social media presence would bring a bigger headache than most regular people, and in the end, isn’t really worth it.
“Every like, every friend who likes her pictures or comments will be found by the tabloids, she will be so scrutinized, and in her role, it’s not worth it,” Jain says.
“Social media is a powerful tool for celebrities, it’s a way to get your authentic message to people direct who care about it, but she’s functioning in the royal family and the risk factor of what she says being misconstrued is high. It’s not worth it for her to have everything she says or posts investigated.”
He adds that for us regular folk, as long as you’re using social media to publicly support your significant other, that solves half the equation.
“And take time offline. No one wants to date someone who’s live-streaming their life,’ Jain says.